The Only Advice for Troubled Marriage

July 15th, 2009

Click here to see how I saved my marriage in only two weeks!

Hi, welcome to my page! I am Juliette Christian, and I’m 41 years old, and I’m going to tell you the story of how I saved my marriage.

You probably are in a troubled marriage, maybe you think your marriage is going to end, or maybe it has already ended. I think marriages are sacred and it is a shame so many couples are getting divorced every day. So, myself just having fixed my ending marriage, I want to help the couples out there as best as I can. Please bear with me, whether you are the husband or the wife, and listen to my story.

I have been married for six years and I thought it was normal over time for that “magic” to diminish, so when my husband said he didn’t want to go out for dinner, or he seemed more interested in the TV than me; I said to myself: “Well, that’s it. You’re gonna have to get used to it, that’s how all marriages are.” How wrong!!

But even though I thought that way, his lack of interest in me (and maybe mine in him) was growing and this was causing a lot of quarrels between us. Those quarrels, in turn, made everything worse. Only a couple of months later, we were in the midst of what is called a marriage crisis – we were quarreling all the time and we had barely any sex life at all. Yes – maybe my interest in him had waned a bit, but I still loved him and didn’t want this marriage to end!

He didn’t say anything explicitly but we were barely talking to each other anyway. There was no question our marriage was ending – so I prayed every night, and secretly cried every night. I was sleeping alone – he wasn’t even sleeping with me any more.

And then it happened – he said “we need to talk”. I knew what he was going to say already. The world went under from my feet, I remember crying for hours. But no, I wouldn’t resign! I looked for marriage counseling, but they are for couples who wanted to repair their troubled marriages, and my husband certainly didn’t want to do that.

So I went to Google and searched for guides of “saving your marriage”. Unfortunately, there weren’t a lot of guides designed for marriages. They were all tailored towards “pull your ex back” thing. They were for boyfriends/girlfriends, not for actual spouses. But they said they would work for marriages, too. So I got one of those books, but from the first page it was evident that this was not the book for married couples.

I searched some more, and I came to Amy Waterman’s “Save Your Marriage” site. Waterman is, as I researched later, a well known author for relationship books. This was a book especially for advice for troubled marriages. I was desperate and I decided to give this a try, too. Well, it turned out to be the best decision in my life.

When I first bought the book and was skimming through the pages, I was surprised, maybe even shocked, to see that Waterman was actually talking about MY marriage. I didn’t know marriages had so many things in common. It was like I had explained everything about my marriage to Waterman and she was now in turn answering with advice for troubled marriage.

Click here to see the book I’m talking about.

So, after trying things that didn’t work (you can find what did NOT work for fixing my marriage in the post below this) I finally started doing what Waterman was saying I should do… and the results were unbelievable. From the first week he started acting strangely in a positive way – it looked like he was now hesitating for the divorce. After a little time, we sat, talked for hours about our differences, and then decided to go on with our marriage… My marriage was saved! I can’t believe how overjoyed I was, and still am.

Not only we are still together, we’re now better than ever. We go out nearly every day, do crazy things we never thought about doing before, and have a fabulous sex life… It’s like we have fallen in love with each other once again.

So my friend, hear my words – this awesome book helped me repair my marriage once and for all. That’s my story. I hope you found my page useful… And best of luck to retaining your marriage. They are sacred – NEVER resign yourself and agree with the divorce!

Best luck to you!

Click here to visit Amy Waterman’s site.

How to Save Your Marriage (Not!)

July 9th, 2009

I am writing these lines as a woman who has been able to fix her troubled marriage. What I want to do in this site, as you can read in the About Me section, is to help couples (whether it’s the husband or the wife seeking advice for troubled marriage) save their marriages. So, in this post I will start with talking about what didn’t work for me.

  • I acted overly good to my spouse. Nothing changed, and I think he even got angrier at me when I tried to play down our quarrels, because he realized that I was doing it on purpose.
  • I acted overly bad to my spouse. When I saw that the above didn’t work, I tried the opposite – there has to be something that works, right? Well, this didn’t work either. Moreover, it even aggrevated our quarrels.
  • I ignored him. As much as I could, I began ignoring him – going out more and more with friends, not talking to him much etc. This was the worst of it all. I realized that he liked the fact I was ignoring him – because he was already thinking of divorce, he now thought I was looking forward to it too. It did some catastrophic damage to our marriage, I think.

At that stage I was completely devastated and I cried secretly every night. He heard me crying but didn’t bother to talk to me and ease me a bit. This made me even worse, I had nightmares every day. Our marriage was going downhill as fast as it possibly could – and there seemed nothing I could do to save my marriage…

How bad those days were. But yes, now I am together and very happy with my husband, and our marriage is stronger than ever! And I can’t believe those horrible days, which I felt I was in a mental prison – I felt the walls would crush me… those days were only some months ago! How fast everything has changed, and in the best direction!

Click here to see how I saved my ending marriage.

Advice for Troubled Marriage – Welcome

July 9th, 2009

When was the last time we had a good time together, I can’t remember. My husband looked like he didn’t care for me anymore. I was secretly doubting he was involved with someone else, too. My marriage was troubled, no doubt, and I didn’t know how to fix a troubled marriage.

I thought the world was about to end. I loved him so much, yet with the quarrels we were having I knew our marriage wouldn’t go too far. I understood his feelings, actually – because most of the time I felt like him too, I too felt that we were having that “crisis” one too often, and even the smallest issues were ending up in big quarrels. And another woman? I sometimes felt the presence of another woman in him.

I think those things made it clear to him that we were going to divorce, and from that moment he stopped caring. I was similar, but I didn’t want to divorce – instead, I was aware of our problems but I did want to help our troubled marriage.

But it looked like he had set up his mind on divorcing and whatever I tried (first acting overly good, then acting overly bad, then begging) couldn’t sway his mind even a little bit. He didn’t talk about divorcing explicitly, but it was secretly buried in all the words he said to me. Our marriage was coming to an end.

I didn’t want that – I loved him so much and I wanted to save our marriage – but all the advice for troubled marriage I had from friends and over the Internet were actually making things worse…