“My husband wants a divorce but I don’t” – If you are saying this, chances are that you’ve met someone who thinks there is no way you can save your marriage. They say, “once someone says that word (divorce), the marriage is already over.” But those people do not know what they are talking about! You can save your marriage with the use of correct tools.
It could be true that your husband wants to divorce you; and I understand (and know) how terrible a moment it is when your husband SAYS that he wants a divorce. And I also know that the devastation doesn’t go away. When it happened to me, I was so confused and was in a frenzy to do something to save my marriage. You are terrified because you know that this is not a simple relationship, it is a marriage; and your whole life is built upon it.
So then it’s very understandable what you feel (and I had felt) about “doing something at once to prevent a divorce”. But this doesn’t make it a good state of mind. In a desperate state of mind, you can come up with nothing but utterly destructive things like begging and crying in front of your husband. Your subconscious thinks that he will be under more pressure about his decision if he knows how much it will devastate you and this will somehow repair your marriage.
And it does put him under great pressure, but that works the opposite way. He will want to get out of it as soon as possible. Moreover, there is an even more psychological condition that makes “begging” a very poor choice when you want to save your marriage when “my husband wants a divorce.”
It is the law that governs most human behavior – you want things you can’t easily get.
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So what does this have to do with “my husband wants a divorce”? Lots. If you beg your husband, in his eyes you will be very easy to have. Subconsciously this will make you a very poor choice of a wife, and he will be instantly turned off. So you should never ever act the “weak wife” to your husband.
But there’s something else this points at… and it is that you can “use” this law to your advantage. If you are easily accessible to your husband, he will want you less. But if you are less accessible, he will want you more!
So starting from today act more independent. Leave with your friends and don’t come back until late. Things like that.
Know that being worried about “my husband wants a divorce” necessitates that you act the opposite way, and your marriage will be saved.