Advice For Troubled Marriage

I am writing these lines as a woman who has been able to fix her troubled marriage. What I want to do in this site, as you can read in the About Me section, is to help couples (whether it’s the husband or the wife seeking advice for troubled marriage) save their marriages. So, in this post I will start with talking about what didn’t work for me.

• I acted overly good to my spouse. Nothing changed, and I think he even got angrier at me when I tried to play down our quarrels, because he realized that I was doing it on purpose.
• I acted overly bad to my spouse. When I saw that the above didn’t work, I tried the opposite – there has to be something that works, right? Well, this didn’t work either. Moreover, it even aggrevated our quarrels.
• I ignored him. As much as I could, I began ignoring him – going out more and more with friends, not talking to him much etc. This was the worst of it all. I realized that he liked the fact I was ignoring him – because he was already thinking of divorce, he now thought I was looking forward to it too. It did some catastrophic damage to our marriage, I think.

At that stage I was completely devastated and I cried secretly every night. He heard me crying but didn’t bother to talk to me and ease me a bit. This made me even worse, I had nightmares every day. Our marriage was going downhill as fast as it possibly could – and there seemed nothing I could do to save my marriage…

How bad those days were. But yes, now I am together and very happy with my husband, and our marriage is stronger than ever! And I can’t believe those horrible days, which I felt I was in a mental prison – I felt the walls would crush me… those days were only some months ago! How fast everything has changed, and in the best direction!

Click here to see how I saved my ending marriage.

When was the last time we had a good time together, I can’t remember. My husband looked like he didn’t care for me anymore. I was secretly doubting he was involved with someone else, too. My marriage was troubled, no doubt, and I didn’t know how to fix a troubled marriage.

I thought the world was about to end. I loved him so much, yet with the quarrels we were having I knew our marriage wouldn’t go too far. I understood his feelings, actually – because most of the time I felt like him too, I too felt that we were having that “crisis” one too often, and even the smallest issues were ending up in big quarrels. And another woman? I sometimes felt the presence of another woman in him.

I think those things made it clear to him that we were going to divorce, and from that moment he stopped caring. I was similar, but I didn’t want to divorce – instead, I was aware of our problems but I did want to help our troubled marriage.

But it looked like he had set up his mind on divorcing and whatever I tried (first acting overly good, then acting overly bad, then begging) couldn’t sway his mind even a little bit. He didn’t talk about divorcing explicitly, but it was secretly buried in all the words he said to me. Our marriage was coming to an end.

I didn’t want that – I loved him so much and I wanted to save our marriage – but all the advice for troubled marriage I had from friends and over the Internet were actually making things worse…