• I acted overly good to my spouse. Nothing changed, and I think he even got angrier at me when I tried to play down our quarrels, because he realized that I was doing it on purpose.
• I acted overly bad to my spouse. When I saw that the above didn’t work, I tried the opposite – there has to be something that works, right? Well, this didn’t work either. Moreover, it even aggrevated our quarrels.
• I ignored him. As much as I could, I began ignoring him – going out more and more with friends, not talking to him much etc. This was the worst of it all. I realized that he liked the fact I was ignoring him – because he was already thinking of divorce, he now thought I was looking forward to it too. It did some catastrophic damage to our marriage, I think.

At that stage I was completely devastated and I cried secretly every night. He heard me crying but didn’t bother to talk to me and ease me a bit. This made me even worse, I had nightmares every day. Our marriage was going downhill as fast as it possibly could – and there seemed nothing I could do to save my marriage…

How bad those days were. But yes, now I am together and very happy with my husband, and our marriage is stronger than ever! And I can’t believe those horrible days, which I felt I was in a mental prison – I felt the walls would crush me… those days were only some months ago! How fast everything has changed, and in the best direction!

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I thought the world was about to end. I loved him so much, yet with the quarrels we were having I knew our marriage wouldn’t go too far. I understood his feelings, actually – because most of the time I felt like him too, I too felt that we were having that “crisis” one too often, and even the smallest issues were ending up in big quarrels. And another woman? I sometimes felt the presence of another woman in him.

I think those things made it clear to him that we were going to divorce, and from that moment he stopped caring. I was similar, but I didn’t want to divorce – instead, I was aware of our problems but I did want to help our troubled marriage.

But it looked like he had set up his mind on divorcing and whatever I tried (first acting overly good, then acting overly bad, then begging) couldn’t sway his mind even a little bit. He didn’t talk about divorcing explicitly, but it was secretly buried in all the words he said to me. Our marriage was coming to an end.

I didn’t want that – I loved him so much and I wanted to save our marriage – but all the advice for troubled marriage I had from friends and over the Internet were actually making things worse…